Ahem – yeah so that was a longer break than expected. 🙂
OK – onwards with the British Sex Survey Results 2014.
To remind everyone, every few years a survey is taken of the general population to learn about our sexual habits, preferences, general feelings about sex, and to gather statistical data. The last one was roughly 2008.
How would you define your sexuality?
This has stayed relatively the same, but as the 16-21 age category now shows 21% of people saying they are homosexal or bisexual, this may change in the future.
How adventurous do you think your sex life is?
Very adventurous = 9%
Adventurous = 22%
Average = 41%
Unadventurous = 12%
Very unadventurous = 17%
Now adventurous is all relative. What is intriguing/spicy to me could be seen as completely vanilla to someone else, and vice-versa.
31% claiming their sex lives are adventurous or very adventurous could be completely misleading, but that means that at least 1 in 3 of us is a wild child. Nice.
Some facts about the casual free love aspects of modern society….
Have you ever used dating websites to specifically look for casual sex?
Yes, regularly = 4%
Yes, occasionally = 10%
No = 87%
Have you ever had casual sex with someone you met on the internet?
Yes = 14%
No = 86%
Have you ever slept with someone whose name you did not know?
Yes = 20%
No = 80%
Ahhhhh……….the wonders of the internet. It’s easier than ever to hook up, and dating sites and Tinder have a lot to answer for.
OK, I want to draw particular attention to the next section. It is important to note that due to the nature of this survey, even with anonymity, not everyone would have been honest, so realistically you could ramp up these numbers, which I have to say, scares me quite a bit.
Do you always practice safe sex with new partners?
Yes = 74%
No = 26%
Have you ever had a one-night stand?
Yes = 49%
No = 51%
Nearly 50% of us have had one night stands, and nearly 25% of us don’t practice safe sex with new partners.
Here’s some more stats to think about…
Have you ever had a sexually transmitted disease?
Yes = 11%
No = 89%
Have you ever had an HIV test?
Yes = 21%
No = 79%
About 13% of men have had an STD at some point, compared with 9% of women. In total, 11% of Britons have had an STD, down from 12% in 2008.
The 25-34 age group are the most likely to have contracted an STD (21%) and also the most likely to have been tested for HIV (36%).
While the numbers contracting STDs have remained stable, the proportion of Britons who say they are worried about STDs has continued to fall. In 2002, 52% of Britons said they were either “very” or “fairly” worried about STDs. This figure fell sharply, to 35%, in 2008 and has fallen again, to 28% in 2014. This decline in concern could be attributed to younger generations growing up in the period after fears of an HIV epidemic in the UK abated.
People, people, how many times?? Now I’m not saying I’m an angel (no shit!), and I’m not saying I’ve always been perfect. BUT…I get regularly tested, and I use protection.
People have sex. Fact.
People have STIs. People catch them. Fact.
If you’re having sex, please look after yourself. Get checked out. Use protection. I’m not trying to judge. I don’t care if you’ve been sleeping with the same person for forty years, or you’re fucking lots of randoms. Your sex life is your sex life.
But PLEASE….. have safe sex! I want my minxes to be happy and healthy.
Here’s a good link to go to for advice and info on sexual health.
However, this filled me with hope
Do you think the government should spend more money on education and information policies about HIV and other sexually transmitted diseases?
Yes = 73%
No = 27%
Do you believe that it is right that same-sex couples can now get married?
Yes = 63%
No = 37%
Do you think that gay sex should be made illegal?
Yes = 16%
No = 84%
Do you believe that it is right for same-sex couples to adopt children?
Yes = 61%
No = 39%
Attitudes to homosexuality are clearly becoming more liberal but there are still, what The Guardian calls “pockets of resistance”.
No no no no NO.
(Deep breath in)
We are not defined, and should not have our lives controlled because of who we love or who sleep with.
This sort of attitude just……..ughhhh. Beige thinking. BEIGE I tell you.
SOME PEOPLE ARE GAY. GET OVER IT!
Back to the stats.
Have you ever watched pornography on the internet?
Yes, occasionally 41%
Yes, regularly 15%
So it looks like 44% are LYING. I’m joking. I’m sure it’s much higher than that. 🙂
Do you ever read erotica (eg Fifty Shades of Grey)?
Yes, regularly = 7%
Yes, occasionally = 37%
No = 57%
The current estimates of sales for 50 Shades of Grey in the UK alone stands at 12 million. Which means that roughly 1 in 5 of us owns a copy, so hardly surprising that 44% of us are reading erotica. Whilst it has always mooched in the shadows as the bad girl of the literary world, 50 Shades and “Mummy porn” has made erotica far more acceptable (regardless of the quality of the writing).
There were lots more interesting statistics from the British Sex Survey.
As you can see it was a small sample, not on the same scale as the regular Durex surveys, or the ones done by the researchers such as the Professor Kinsey, but it gives you an idea of where we are and how we’re doing.
Seems to me like a bit of a mixed bag. While we’re getting more relaxed and liberal about certain things, there are still issues. One of the most worrying trends seems to be that we’re having less sex and we’re not as happy with our sex lives.
This could be because of the recession…I mean it was a bloody nightmare, and stress is a major libido killer.
But there are also glimmers of hope, and fingers crossed we’re all moving into a better sexual place.
I hope so.