Coming out of the (locker room) closet


This is going to start with a mini rant. Apologies for being awol for so long. I’ve been having severe internet issues, and it’s been driving me nuts. (Fuck you TalkTalk. Fuck you and your beige customer service, right to the seventh circle of hell.) Rant over.

My dear minx lovers,

Normally I try to fill these pages full of mirth and merriment, asking you to share my thoughts, and generally laugh at my mistakes, and the general hilarity of all things sexy.

Today, I just ask for your time.

With the exception of rugby, sport has never really been a big thing for me. I didn’t play sport as a kid, and had very little ambition to physically compete. For some people, it is, was, and always will be the main part of their life. Professional sportsmen and women face an extremely high level of pressure, scrutiny, and media attention. They become in many ways public property….that’s part of the job. It takes real courage to put yourself out there, on a regional, or national, or international platform, and to try, in whatever sport, and face that, and potentially face defeat. Incredibly, some people not only chose to put themselves through this, for the love of their chosen sport, but they do it whilst at the same time carrying a secret. For many many years, gay sportsmen and women simply couldn’t exist….so they didn’t.

On 2nd Dec 2013, 19 year old British diver, Tom Daley, posted a video online to discuss his current relationship. In front of the whole world, he admitted that he was bisexual, and was (and still is) in a relationship with a man. He says in the video “In an ideal world, I wouldn’t be doing this video, because it shouldn’t matter.”

On the 8th of January, this year, an ex Premier league and German International footballer, Thomas Hitzlsperger, former Aston Villa, West Ham and Everton player, came out. By doing this, he became the most high profile footballer to openly admit his homosexuality.

In February, Missouri All-American defensive end Michael Sam, publicly acknowledged that he is gay, making him potentially the first openly gay NFL player.

March saw Nicole Bonamino, a 22 in-line roller hockey player, become the first Italian sportsperson playing at the top level to come out.

England’s Women’s football team captain, 31 year old Casey Stoney also came out in March, after ” the positive reaction to diver Tom Daley saying he was in a relationship with a man, and because of the “loving relationship” she is in.”

Please just stop and think for a moment about the incredible courage it has taken these men and women to simply admit who they are and who they love. These are news stories for most of us. We’ll read them and probably think, wow, good for him or her, then forget and go about our day. But these people live it, every day.

The Winter Olympics, and the resounding bigotry from backward thinking fuckwits such as Vladimir Putin, highlighted that even in 2014, with all the reason, and progress and positive steps forward humanity has made in terms of being more accepting of homosexuality, there are still battles to be fought. Some people will always be scared of change, and things that are different, but this is a change for the better.

Some people are gay, Vladimir. GET OVER IT.

To Tom, and those other sportsmen and women…..I am genuinely lost for words at your courage, so I turn instead to one of my favourite films, Top Gun.

“Gutsiest move I ever saw, man”.

Much love,




About littlewelshminx

I'm a Welsh girl in my 30s, living and working in south Wales. I like reading, writing, watching films (especially things that make me laugh) hanging out with friends, going to bars to drink and dance playing guitar (badly) listening to lots of different types of music (opera to dance to bluegrass to rock) going to the theatre, and I've recently started swimming. I have 2 degrees, and have had lots and lots of different jobs, including working as a barmaid, waitress, KP, shop assistant, admin assistant, events, sales, PR, marketing....writing suits me best. I will be writing about sex from as many angles as possible - from personal experience, through academia, history, geography, culture, myth, legend, fact and fiction. What is sexy? What turns us on? What do we really think and feel about sex? If you like what you read, please follow me, and pass it on :)
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