With the festive fun mere weeks away, we have entered that vaguely dangerous territory of office party season, and all the wonderful fun and frolics that come with 7 hours of drinking with your colleagues and your boss.
Office politics can be tricky at the best of times, but come Christmas, it seems to be a free for all. A recent survey by sextoys.co.uk found that out of the people surveyed:
Over 67% would use the Christmas office party to pull a workmate
30% said they couldn’t wait and used to office to have sex rather than go home
48% said that they’d had sex with a colleague after a work do
Now some people might write this off as just another potential nooky date in the calendar. Paddy’s Day, Bank Holidays, the end of term, and any major international sporting event: Excitement, possible fancy/posh dress + drinking = sexy time right? I think there is a little more to it.
It is a well known fact that work is one of the most common places to meet your partner, with 15-20% of us getting together with a colleague. It can come with risks, and there is always the worry of mixing business with pleasure, but in today’s time starved society, what are the other options? It’s hardly surprising when you consider the fact that so many of spend more time at work or asleep than anywhere else, and if you click with someone, why it’s worth taking a chance.
I think that this is summed up magnificently by the character of Tim in The Office. When I finally made the time to watch it, I was struck by the wonderful tension between Tim and Dawn.
The people you work with are people you were just throw together with. You know, you don’t know them, it wasn’t your choice, and yet you spend more time with them then you do your friends or your family. But probably all you’ve got in common is the fact that you walk around on the same bit of carpet for 8 hours a day. And so, obviously, when someone comes in who you… you have a connection with…
Yes…what if someone IS there that you connect with?
Now Christmas can be bitter sweet. You close down your desk, projects, finish your last essay, buy the presents and the tree…and there is a moment of an end of term type feeling, where just for a second you pause. It’s a time when we look back, and look forward. It’s about remembering, celebrating (possibly lamenting) old loves and relationships. But above all, it’s a time of hope, for taking chances, and for taking that first step towards something, or someone new.
Maybe that’s why the Christmas office party is more than just a chance for another knees up. Christmas gives us the extra encouragement to be romantic, thoughtful, caring, spontaneous, creative, courageous, naughty, super sexy. It could be that all that is needed, is a chance, in the form of a once a year get together, some mistletoe, or in Tim and Dawn’s case, secret Santa.
Over 10 years ago, I went for a drink at Christmas with some friends down the local bar. I randomly bumped into someone, got chatting, and ended up in my first long term, and to date, one of the best relationships I ever had. All because I thought, hey, it’s Christmas!
How many times have you had that extra beer, bought that extra present, eaten that extra bag of gold coins, and thought ” It’s Christmas!”? Maybe it’s time to leave the naughty guilt to one side, and go for it. I’m not saying that just because it’s December we have to get shit faced and shag like bunnies on a photocopier (if only I had the time. Or a photocopier). Maybe office parties are wild because the rest of the year, we’re too inhibited to try, and it overspills into a Baileys and mulled wine fuelled orgy of pent up urges, lusts and attractions. Maybe it’s time to leave the mistletoe and wine, and just give it a go.
As Tim says
Dawn was a ray of sunshine in my life and it meant a lot. But, if I’m really being honest I never really thought it would have a happy ending. I don’t know what a happy ending is. Life isn’t about endings, is it? It’s a series of moments. And umm… it’s not if, you know, if you turn the camera off it’s not an ending, is it. I’m still here, my life’s not over. Come back, come back here in 10 years, see how I’m doing then. Cause I could be married with kids, you don’t know. Life just goes on.
Christmas or not, grab those chances now.